Why can't we live in the "No Self-Judgement Zone?"

Have you ever caught yourself consumed with judgement during the times you should be feeling great about yourself? I do this all the time and I thought perhaps it is something worth a discussion.

Last week I joined Planet Fitness to set up twice weekly sessions with my sister. It is always harder to pass on your workout commitments when you have a partner. The gym has positive messaging throughout, but it also has “No Critics” and No Judgement” banners.

You would assume that is meant to keep people from judging others, but actually - it may be written for me perfectly because it is my tendency to judge myself! Lifting weights in front of the mirror should be empowering, especially since I’ve doubled my weight and reps - but I see some loose skin under my arms and think - “Ugh, loose skin! I have so far to go!” Or in the locker room wearing a size small LuLuLemon tank and thinking “I see some back fat!”

This type of judgement is so unkind and unhelpful! It serves no purpose but to keep us from being brave and feeling proud. At 62, I have a strong will, working out almost daily and eating super healthy. I have not given myself “permission ”to let myself go" even though I’m technically retired. Why would I permit that little voice of negativity to have a presence in my mind during the times that I should feel the best?

“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” - The Gospel According to Coco Chanel

Start a new habit rather than trying to change the old one! Celebrate that while there are 20 people in the gym - you are one of them! While that are 30 people waiting in line at Dunkin Donuts, you aren’t one of them!

Love your strong body, and your beautiful mind! This, like other journeys must be taken one step at a time. Before you know it - you will be there! I plan to meet you there myself!